Property Tax

I tried paying my property tax bill on the 12th of October. I went in with a check and $195 in coins. The coins were a combination of $1 coins and quarters. I did not think that was to terrible of me. Turns out they don’t have to take any coins. I thought it was just pennies they could refuse, but its all of them. I am guessing its because of this that they do that:

2502. Legal tender, etc. Taxes may be paid in legal tender or in money receivable in payment of taxes by the United States. The tax collector shall have the right to refuse the payment in coins of property taxes, penalties and interest, and any other charges associated with the payment of property taxes.

Since they wont take coins I am going to do an experiment with checks. I have written several checks with tiny amounts on them. Ranging from 1 cent to 16 cents. I am wondering if they can refuse my small checks. If they cant refuse my checks, I am thinking I am really going to have fun with them next year.

The importance of struggling...

Once a little girl was playing outdoors and found a fascinating caterpillar. She carefully picked it up and took it home to show her mother. She asked her mother if she could keep it, and she said she could if she would take good care of it.

 The little girl got a large jar from her mother and put plants to eat, and a stick to climb on, in the jar. Every day she watched the caterpillar and brought it new plants to eat.

One day the caterpillar climbed up the stick and started acting strangely. The girl worriedly called her mother who came and understood that the caterpillar was creating a cocoon. The mother explained to the girl how the caterpillar was going to go through a metamorphosis and become a butterfly.

The little girl was thrilled to hear about the changes her caterpillar would go through. She watched every day, waiting for the butterfly to emerge. One day it happened, a small hole appeared in the cocoon and the butterfly started to struggle to come out.

 At first the girl was excited, but soon she became concerned. The butterfly was struggling so hard to get out! It looked like it couldn’t break free! It looked desperate! It looked like it was making no progress!

 The girl was so concerned she decided to help. She ran to get scissors, and then walked back (because she had learned not to run with scissors…). She snipped the cocoon to make the hole bigger and the butterfly quickly emerged!

As the butterfly came out the girl was surprised. It had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. She continued to watch the butterfly expecting that, at any moment, the wings would dry out, enlarge and expand to support the swollen body. She knew that in time the body would shrink and the butterfly’s wings would expand.

  But neither happened!

The butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings.

 It never was able to fly…

 As the girl tried to figure out what had gone wrong her mother took her to talk to a scientist from a local college. She learned that the butterfly was SUPPOSED to struggle. In fact, the butterfly’s struggle to push its way through the tiny opening of the cocoon pushes the fluid out of its body and into its wings. Without the struggle, the butterfly would never, ever fly. The girl’s good intentions hurt the butterfly.

As you go through life, keep in mind that struggling is an important part of any growth experience. In fact, it is the struggle that causes you to develop your ability to fly.


As parents our gift to you is stronger wings…   


Sitting back & struggling..

How do you as a child sit back and expect your parents to clean up your life choices.

We have given money to both our kids when they were short on a bill or could not afford the bill at all, such as rent and phone bills for instance. Turned out they ended up spending that money on other things except the bill it was meant for. So we ended up having to essentially pay one month rent bill twice, to this day we still do not know what the first amount of rent money was spent on. Even after our trust was betrayed with the use of the money we have still assisted with paying their bills. Now though, we make sure the money gets to the company that the money is owed to.

We gave both our children a car to drive. In the end neither one of them followed the steps necessary to keep the car. One lost the car in an accident with no car insurance and the other lost the car due to several accidents and not being able to maintain it. Even though maintenance would not have cost a thing. If the cars had been used responsibly and one of them broke down we would have been happy to loan a car so they could get around while the car was in the shop.

Both the kids have needed a place to stay on several occasions. We have taken both of them in at one time or another. Neither one was able to abide by the rules of the house. So it would be nice to be able to allow them to stay at the house if they needed to, but it would just be to stressful due to the aforementioned reason.

Rules of the GAME...

Greeting Kids,

Did you ever think about the game of life? It really is just a game with rules that need to be followed if you want to be successful. At least by “game” standards anyway. Your parents did have a plan that would of helped you master these rules. Turns out you were not ready to play the game at that time of your life. Now here we are a few years later, and I am wondering if you are ready to play the game of life yet?

If you are, we will be more than happy to help you master the rules of the game. If you can master just a few of the rules you can learn how to bring in income, get your own car and all the things that are needed with it, get your own place to live, have a cell phone with service and have electricity at your residence, just to name a few.

When you are ready to elevate your life (once again, at least according to the game) please let us know.

Remember, its all about just following some basic rules. Kind of like a video game, master the rules of the video game and you can do well in it. Same goes for the game of life, master the rules and your living situation could be better.

Let us know if you are interested in getting some assistance in mastering some of the game of life rules. They probably are not as hard as you think.

Love you both. Hope to hear from you soon.

Electric Bill

Sorry for the late reponse. Work has just been crazy with the remodel. Anyway I am sorry to say that we just do not have any extra money at the moment. We have an electrical issue at the house and have to pay several thousand dollars to get it fixed.

We do have a few gift cards that we have not used that we can give you if that would help you. We have a $25 dollar red lobster card, a $25 Stater Bros card, and a $50 outback steakhouse card.

By the way most utility companies will work with people to pay their bills and usually allow for payment plans.

If you would like the cards please let me know.

Tiny house

Here is what needs to be done for the house to be “finished”

  1. [DONE] Retrieve the door on the side of the big house.

  2. [DONE] Fix the grout in the shower of the tiny house.

  3. [DONE] Repair and paint the holes in the side of the house that the demolition crew left when they tore down the cover.

  4. [DONE] Paint the dirt stains on the side of the house that occurred from lack of gutters at the time.

  5. Fix the kitchen cabinet door to align with the kitchen drawer. The drawer did not have to be moved over quite so far as it is. It just needed to move a little bit to allow room for the oven door.

  6. [DONE] Remove the stains on the bathroom floor.

  7. [DONE] Remove the "gritty” stuff on the kitchen and bathroom counter tops.

  8. Fix the rain gutter that is not attached properly to the tiny house anymore since the demolition crew.

  9. The dirt out back was taken but the dirt out in front of the gate was not. It needs to be leveled off out in front of the gate.

  10. [DONE] Mount the shower and toilet paper roll grab bars.

  11. Not sure what you can do about this but an electrician has informed us that our electrical panel is over loaded. We were never informed that when you hooked power up to the tiny house from that panel that it would be overloaded. Shouldn’t the capacity have been accounted for? Since I don’t want the panel to burn up I have started the process to fix it. The City is coming out to check the power coming into the house. Are they going to be concerned about what you guys did? Also what can you do to assist with fixing this issue?


Hello V*******.  Hope you are able to see this post OK.  You sent me a message asking "Why does it suddenly matter to you how I'm dong?"

Lets talk about "suddenly" for a second.  This is not a sudden thing.  We are always concerned how you are doing.  I think about you and your brother most every day, wondering how you are doing,  Wondering what the heck I might be able to do to help your situation be a little bit better.

Maybe a better question might be why am I trying to suddenly communicate with you.  Well as you know I apparently destroyed you know who's life when I attempted to find out more about how he was doing.  Ever since that incident I try really hard to honor your and his request.  To paraphrase a little you said that you essentially wont be communicating with us and you wont be wanting anymore assistance. 

So I was surprised when you responded to one of my many text.  I thought that maybe we can start communicating again.  So I have been trying to find out how some things are going in your corner of the world.  So you shared a few things and that was great to learn some of the goings on in your life.

In an effort to keep communication going I was hoping to find out some more about whats going on in your life.  So I asked about your residence, since I heard some rumors.  If you would like to share where you reside than great.  If you don't than that is OK too.. 

In the end please remember that we never stopped caring about what is gong on in your life and we still love you. 

I am not sure what your goals are at this time.  Are you interested in getting a car?  Your own place to live?  A new phone?  I am not going to assume what you want to attain.  If you would like to share what goals you are attempting maybe we can help you attain them somehow.

Thanks for reading this.  Hope to hear from you again soon.    Love you...

The new world order...


After running away again, the old deal that you think you have no longer exist.  You always say your are not V!@#$%^ (name hidden so as not to embarrass people to much).  However you have done pretty much what he has done.  Because of this your parental units have decided to give you the same deal that V!@#$%^ has.  We will go ahead and pay for your college, but its a reimbursement arrangement.   That means you get yourself enrolled, take the classes, pass the classes, then show your parents the official school transcript and your receipts.  Then we will reimburse you for the expenses that you incurred for the semester/quarter.

As you have said many times before, "I'm leaving when I am 18...", we need you to do this.  You have until 9/17 to find yourself a place to live.  We will once again give you the V!@#$%^ deal.  If your new place can't take all your stuff initially we will put it in storage for you and pay for it for 12 months.

We do wish you well in your future endeavors and like V!@#$%^ would love to hear whats going on in your life and have you over for visiting and holidays.

Moving out

Looks like I'm gonna have to ask my child to move out soon.  They just can not seem to live by the house rules  


Messy room

Messy room

One of her chores is keep room clean. This is just not getting done. It's certainly not the first time I have had to see the room like this.  

Another day of mess

Another day of mess


One of the rules of the house is no food upstairs in the bedroom.  We had an ant problem once and this took care of that problem. No food made for no ants.  

Looks like food... 

Looks like food... 

She just keeps hammering... 

She just keeps hammering... 

Another nail today, 3/22/16. After 3 weeks still testing positive for THC. It seems like she must still be using.  Know next week for sure.  The money I spend on drug test is adding up quickly. 


Aril 15th







And more food

And more food

I still wonder. What part of NO food in the room does she not understand  

Shopping carts...

Why do some people think it is OK to not return a shopping cart they took to the proper location?  They think it is OK to just shove it into the parking stall next to them.  Do they not realize that now no one can park there until that cart gets put away properly.  Whats worse is the people who put it into the handicapped parking stall.  These people can't just hop out (generally) and move it so they can park.  If you want to use a shopping cart have the decency to put it away where it belongs when you are done with it.  Just common courtesy.


The lady in the car could not be bothered to return the cart she wanted to use.

The lady in the car could not be bothered to return the cart she wanted to use.

There is the cart that she used but could not apparently return to the proper place

There is the cart that she used but could not apparently return to the proper place

Karmic Wheel

The Karmic wheel came around and repaid some of the goodness I set out to the universe.  While waiting at the Costco optical department a person who was leaving got helped without having to give his number over.  I was number 28, they were just now server number 21.  At the speed they were moving it was probably going to be an hour.  Well they guy who had number 23 didn't surrender his number and he was able to get helped sooner since he was just picking something up.  When he left he gave me number 23.  I thought that was very nice.  Evidence that the Karmic wheel can come around with god stuff for you.  Of course maybe the universe just allowed me to take cuts in front of 24 -27....



Secret weight loss technique...

Why do so many people believe that they can lose weight and feel great by not changing their life style?

Everybody seems to just want to take a pill and then continue to eat like a pig and not exercise and then expect to lose weight.  Well I have some sad news for you.  It does not work that way.

The secret is diet and exercise.  In a nutshell:  

Calories IN > Calories Out = Weight Gain

Calories IN < Calories Out = Weight Loss

So if you want to eat like a pig just exercise like a horse.  Just make small changes in your life and before you know it you too will be eating a healthy diet and exercising.